Are you ready, ladies? Get out your notebooks, or get your notes app out. I’m about to tell you all the deets in building confidence. I want to make sure you’re paying full attention, so here it is, ok, are you ready? Step 1…
Change your mindset
That’s it. No, step two. No subscription to Psychology Today. No walk on hot coals. It’s that simple, really. But is it? (She asks, as she sobs into her wine glass in the bathtub.) It can be if you start changing how you look at things around you and accessing that authentic self that I know you have deep down.
I must admit, if you had asked me about my confidence about 5 years ago, I would have probably told you it was non-existent. I would have totally bought into all that Kylie Jenner lip gloss bullshit (in fact, I think I actually bought one set, and it stained my lips so bad that I knew this wasn’t really “me” deep down). I briefly thought about Botox until I looked at the gouging price tag and realized that I’d just have to suffer in silence with my normal cream. And yes, I too (reluctantly) tried those “body after breakup” diets like Keto, Paleo, and whatever other one-word catchy titles that tried so hard to make each diet feel so “fab, fit, fun,” all the while thinking this would be some magic way for me to gain confidence. But was I feeling fab and fit and fun inside? Was I feeling confident? No. I was still feeling lousy because I was focusing on my insecurities and hiding who I really was out of fear of being judged. I thought maybe I wouldn’t be “cool” like the people you see on TV or in the media. And all of this when I was still just 27!